A: Ok, the whole virginity thing came out because of the breakup I had previously. And on the show, of course, it came up that I was saving myself for marriage. Is it weird that people know that now? Yeah, kind of. Do I care that much? Not really, because it’s not like it’s a bad thing. No, it’s not for everybody.
Everybody doesn’t have to wait because that’s not what they feel their destiny is. But this is what I have to do in order to get a relationship where it’s all good. I just think that when the sex factor is taken out of the relationship, you really get to know a person. Sometimes people jump in headfirst and the person that you’re with never got to know your emotional side. Is it easy? No. I mean, I’m meeting these guys and they’ve been doing whatever they’ve been doing and it’s like, “Are you serious?” Yeah, I’m serious and if you like me enough then you’re going to wait and you’re going to respect me and hopefully you’re not going to cheat because you, as a man, “need” it. I think it’s a good thing. I’m showing a guy that I can wait and hold off and it’s been a whole year and I haven’t even done it. I think it’s an eye opener to some guys.
A lot of little girls do need to know that at 15 and 14-years-old, they don’t need to be doing that. It’s crazy how right-now our society is. All these young girls having all these babies and it’s so sad. I just think that children today are so different than when we were growing up. Honestly,I didn’t kiss anybody till I was in like ninth grade. I got called a prude and I was like, “Geez, I didn’t know it was that serious.”
A: See that, Vanessa’s laughing
V: No, I’m not laughing because mine was later.
A: Well see that, Vanessa’s was later. I just thought it was, you know, normal. I thought it was normal but then you find out for some people it was first grade.
V: First grade? That doesn’t count.
A: It does count! If you kissed somebody, you kissed them.
V: I mean first grade I would get excited and tell if somebody chased me.
A: At the end of the day, I don’t think relationships can be 100 percent private. I can try to duck and hide and pretend I’m not dating someone but I’m a normal person and I’m doing things everyone does. If a relationship that I was in for two years doesn’t work, then it ends. It’s life. How many boyfriends do you really go through before you find your husband? Right now, I’m happy and fine in my relationship. I’m honest about it. I’ve been with him for like a year now and it’s a long-distance relationship so it’s really different. It’s a lot of travelling and a lot of back-and-forth.
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Hey Guys…So Im one of the last people to write a post on relationships. But it kills me when people are soo blind and cant see the filth in their relationships. This post is not designed to point fingers at anyone but to understand why females let men treat them like dirt for the sake of a “relationship”. Especially beautiful educated young women. Scared of a broken heart? SNAP OUT OF IT! We’ve all been there,broken hearts dont kill. WHAT DONT KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER!!! We must learn to take control of our lives and dont let life take control of us. Where’s the pride? where’s the dignity? Those characteristics that come with woman-hood. Wisdom to know that you deserve better and the strength to move on and be productive with our lives. Lets be examples and role models, lets target infedelity, domestic voilence, STD’s and teenage pregnancy. Stop living for today and lets think of tomorrow. Make use of your female intuition and stop taking their actions for granted. ummm wondering what do I mean right? Well the I love you’s and the baby I wanna be with you and no one else!!!
In the words of Ciara ” if that boy dont love you by now…he will never ever love you”…once a cheat always a cheat. Relationships dont last forever so lets live for the betterment of ourselves. Fellas, dont think Im letting you go so easy…What do you gain from the Lieing????The Cheating???? And the mental and Verbal Abuse???? Nothing but an express pass to hell…I’m soo serious right now, some guys take advantage of a womans ignorance, they play with their heads like a game of chess….just….heartless!
I was raised in a home with my loving grandmother…This lady is the epitome of a phenomenal woman with knowledge. She taught me never to let a man take advantage of me…sat me down and gave me examples, told me to stand up for myself. She told me BE HAPPY! and that Im the only one that could bring me happyness! If I’m not happy and comfortable with someone then LEAVE! Its natural to be sad but be proud of your decision. Ladies…Im just a medium, take hid from this lady! She has such an experience! Although she had 8 kids and years of marriage she wasnt scared to up and leave…so there isnt any excuses for us!
I should be an activist right?
No! because I will slap some stupidity out some Stupid Girls…
Until Next time…Deuces
(This is one of my angry posts…lol Im gonna post something uplifting next time LOL)